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 "I
would say to guys who were thinking of
transitioning to talk as much as they can to other
people, and other trans-guys, to use people as
sounding boards, and don’t judge yourself."
— Alex, 2002
"Just
be yourself. It sounds trite, but it's a difficult
thing to face up to who you really are. I think
it's far more important to focus on how you can
best live your life than to worry about what other
people are going to say or whether you fit into
preconceived notions of how men/ ftms/ trans*
people behave." — Henry,
2003
"It
is so important to be open and honest with
yourself, your friends and your family. Family CAN
be so supportive if you are open and honest with
them. They can NOT be too. Blood families who are
not supportive at first, can, over time, come round
and/or be replaced with other family." —
Ross, 2003
"Do
as much reflection and research as humanly possible
and you feel you need to make the choice. AND not
to get pressured one way or the other - either by
medical practitioners or by communities you move
in. Ultimately …there's no rush. The door will
still be there if and when you decide to walk
through it." — Blade, 2003
"If
we ignore, bottle up or reject the difficult issues
then the issues can blow up. Try and deal with the
issues, stress and emotions as they arise and
don’t be afraid talk about them or seek help.
By living up to and buying into the stereotypes we
confirm and entrench them further, which makes life
harder for all genders." — Mick,
2002
"Have
the courage to let the real you step out from the
inner you and if you need help along the way there
is always another man who has just taken that step
ahead of you willing to show you the path." —
Max, 2004
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"It
is important to find someone you can trust to
bounce your feelings off, and to help you to get
started when you are ready, whether that person be
family, friend or counsellor. But find
someone." — Ross,
2003
"You
are the controller of your own destiny; draw on
your own courage and wisdom to change your life.
Only you are the one with the ability to do so.
Believe in your inner self. The journey may not
always be smooth (I know mine was not) but it is
well worth it." — Cameron,
2002
"Believe
in yourself. YOU KNOW how and what YOU feel, how
YOU identify, what YOUR own beliefs are. Don't get
trapped into emotional blackmail from
anyone." — Ross,
2003
"It
pays to have regular checkups incl. pap smears. I
can hear your groans from here. But it is vital
that we look after our health with everything that
is happening." — Stewart,
2004
“Don’t
give up hope and never give up on this dream.
Things may take a little longer than you expect but
like a cliché says: ‘All good things
come to those who wait’.” —
Cindy, 2005
"Follow
your heart and educate people in the process.
Whilst it is your own personal decision, there will
be some that will not accept change. Soldier on
though because life is too short to live by other's
expectations. They will have to just "build a
bridge and get over it"." — Mitch,
2002
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