I would first of all like to say that
in my opinion Transition has a beginning and an
end. I regard transsexualism as a medical
condition like any other and transition as a
rehabilitative process. I have completed my
journey of transition,
I am a man with a transsexual history, a
history which I am not ashamed of and do not
hide from. But these days I choose who, when and
where if at any time to share this history.
Life for me now is everything I ever hoped
and dreamt for. I am a happily married man and a
father of two wonderful sons. I have also
remained with the same employer from the
beginning to the end of my transition and as the
man I am today.
Only last week I was asked if I had any
regrets about the decision I made to transition.
My response was if I died tomorrow I would do so
without regret. I am now a very happy man,
completely true to myself and have found an
inner peace.
Yes, I am married to a very special woman who
I love very much. We meet a short time after I
had begun my journey. I was open and honest with
her from the beginning and notwithstanding my
predicament our relationship flourished. The
unwavering support she has given me and
continues to give me is far beyond what I could
put into words.
One thing that must be said is that it is
very easy to become so self absorbed in your
journey that you can at times take for granted
the support and understanding of your partner.
They ride the roller coaster with you and at
times may be more affected by it than you
are.
As I said above, I believe that Transition
has a beginning and an end, that one does not
spend all their life transitioning. I also
believe that when one transitions it is more
about a transitioning of public genders than
anything else. That transitioning is about the
rest of the world realising the truth of who I
am and the recognition that comes with this. I
have always known myself to be nothing but male
despite the fact that a medical professional
pronounced to my parents that I was a girl,
based on a glance at my genitalia.
I completed my transition many years ago now.
Whether to complete public transition or not was
never an issue for me. It was a matter of how
and when. I have no doubt that I would not have
been able to continue my life living the lie
that I was forced to for so many years, the life
of a man with a body not in harmony with my
biological core, that is my brain.
I am a very systematic type of man, so I
dealt with my transition in the same way. A list
was made of everything that was to be completed
and prioritised. As each step was completed and
ticked off the list, I became more confident
about being able to finally be happy and be
myself without any pretence.
I found that the biggest advantage I had
throughout my period of transition (other than
my wife) was my honesty and openness to educate
the people around me. Many people commented
about the fact that I was open, honest and
unashamed of myself, which meant that they were
given the opportunity to educate themselves.
This made them more at ease with my condition
and not threatened by it.
I now have a life and a very rewarding one at
that. I have never regretted facing my
predicament and doing something about it. You
are the controller of your own destiny; draw on
your own courage and wisdom to change your life.
Only you are the one with the ability to do so.
Believe in your inner self. The journey may not
always be smooth (I know mine was not) but it is
well worth it.
